Placing a Baby for Adoption
Can I Put My Children Up for Adoption Together?
Choosing adoption is often the hardest decision a woman will ever have to make. But what happens when you’re thinking of placing multiple children up for adoption together?
This can feel like an impossible situation to be in. We know that you want to do what’s best for your children and you love them more than anything. But when you’re struggling to cope with the demands of parenthood, it can really feel like adoption is the only way to make sure they’re safe, loved and cared for.
If you’re in a situation that many mothers have found themselves in, we want to help. Here, we’ve provided a list of resources if you’re thinking of putting your children up for adoption. We hope you find what you’re looking for right here. And if you’d like to talk it over some more with an adoption professional, you can also be contacted by an agency by filling out our free information form.
Make Sure Parenting is No Longer an Option
We know that you’re in a difficult situation right now. But before you make plans for an adoption, please make sure that you’ve explored every avenue to continue parenting. Thoughts of not wanting your children or not wanting to parent are more common than you think. But often, these emotions are only temporary.
Putting children up for adoption is a permanent, life-changing decision. That’s why it is important to be 100 percent sure that adoption is the right choice for you to make. Before you move forward, it might be helpful to ask yourself some important questions like:
- Are there resources that can help me parent better?
- Am I ready for the long-term consequences of adoption?
- How will adoption impact my children?
- And more
There are many factors that you will have to consider before your pursue adoption. Don’t forget that you can always talk to a professional for free first if you are considering placing children for adoption together. They will help you determine if adoption is the right decision for you, or if these are just emotions that will pass. If and when you need to talk to someone, please reach out to a free 24/7 hotline.
What Kind of Parenting Resources Do I Have?
We’re so glad you asked. For those who are struggling to parent and thinking of putting kids up for adoption, you should always try to reach out to:
- Your local WIC
- A counselor or therapist with experience in adoption or family therapy
- Services that can help you set up a temporary guardianship
- Your supportive friends and family
These are just a few of the many resources that are available for you to use. We know they may not completely fix what you’re going through, but we hope that they can help ease the burden. With that being said, we don’t want you to have to force yourself to use them if you already know that parenting is no longer an option for you. We just want you to know that you still have options available before you commit to “giving your kids up” for adoption.
I Don’t Want My Children Anymore. What Options Do I Have for Adoption?
If you know that putting your kids up for adoption is the right choice for you, you have a few options. However, whether you can place your children for adoption always depends on your unique circumstances, including factors like your state’s laws, your children’s ages, and potentially the role of your children’s father(s) or other people who have cared for your children in the past.
Most of the time, private adoption agencies primarily specialize in newborn and infant adoptions. So, as your child gets older, it will become much harder to find a professional who has the resources needed for an older child placement. Additionally, it will also be difficult to find a family who is equipped to handle an older child or a sibling group.
If you’re thinking about placing multiple children up for adoption, please reach out to an adoption professional to learn more about which options are available in your situation. to learn more about which options are available in your situation.
The Importance of Maintaining Sibling Groups
If you’re sure that adoption is the right choice for you, you probably have one big worry on your mind: “If a couple wants to adopt a child but doesn’t want the sibling, will they get separated?”
If your children have grown up together and formed a bond, it is incredibly important for your them to stay together if at all possible. For many children who are placed for adoption, whether that’s in foster care or a domestic adoption, their sibling is a constant source of support. Sibling groups that remain together can help provide companionship to one another as they begin to navigate and cope with an emotionally challenging transition.
Adoption professionals realize how important it is to when putting multiple children up for adoption together. That’s why they will do whatever it takes to keep your children together when at all possible. But if for some reason they are not able to be placed together, it is crucial that you’re able to make sure that your children have consistent contact with one another. Phone calls, video calls and even in-person visits can make coping with putting kids up for adoption easier on your children.
How Do You Put Your Children Up for Adoption?
As always, the first step should be to contact an adoption agency that can provide more information. Typically, it is much harder to place older children and sibling groups up for adoption through an agency. You may have to do some searching to find an agency that has the resources you’re looking for, depending on your children’s age. A few options that you might consider contacting are:
When you contact an agency to learn more about how to put up kids for adoption, they’ll walk you through each step. If your children’s ages fall into the agency’s age range and you are able to start the process, here’s what the six steps will typically look like:
- Make sure that adoption is right for you
- Find a professional that can work with older children and sibling groups
- Create an adoption plan
- Find the perfect adoptive family
- Get to know the adoptive family
- Get ready for post-placement contact and life after the adoption
When you are putting older kids up for adoption, you are in the driver’s seat of the entire process. We know that this will be emotionally difficult for you and your children. But your adoption agency will walk you through every step. If you have any questions, don’t be afraid to reach out to them.
Ready to get started? Contact an adoption agency now to get free information.